By Alexandra Booth
Dear Broken Heart,
I know what you’re thinking right now – life sucks.
It’s hard not to think that way since a part of your life is different now. Someone that you were close with, who you gave your time and affection to, is no longer in your life.
Or maybe this is not a romantically broken heart, but broken from experiencing the loss of a loved one. Someone who didn’t leave out of your life willingly, but suddenly. Maybe this is heartbreak from a friend, a person that you trusted and who knew your deepest, darkest secrets. Someone who you drifted apart from over time.
The reason why your heart hurts so much is that there is a ‘last’ moment with this person. There will no longer be questions to ask or stories to tell. No more laughs to share or tears to shed, and no more plans to make with this person. This suddenness makes everything seem that much more final. These people meant something to our lives, and now they’re gone.
Believe me when I say I know what heart break feels like. I’ve lost family members, friends, and boyfriends that I loved. I feel like I tried everything to get over the feeling of heart break. From having immediate rebounds to going on workout binges to show him what he’ll never have again to wallowing in bed for days surrounded by a sea of tissues, I realized nothing was going to get better overnight. I had to give it time.
Now, there seems to be no limit to the amount of advice thats out there if you Google “how to fix a broken heart.” The Huffington Post writes that your feelings matter, release those feelings and seek out support. The Daily Mail advises that you change your habits and thoughts for a fresh start. Even WebMD weighs in and suggests using music and journaling as ways to heal.
Truthfully there is no right way to fix a broken heart. Each individual is different with how he or she copes. Just know that you will get out of this funk. Give it time and you’ll see.
This change can be hard, but it will make you stronger if you allow it. To one broken heart from one thats been fixed, it’ll all be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.