By: Juliana Cuadra
I’m not going to lie. There are days when I feel so bad about myself that I don’t want to get out of bed. Nights that I lie awake staring at the ceiling thinking about something stupid I did years ago. Moments where I think I should lose weight or study more or keep a tidier apartment.
But here’s the thing. I’ve realized that the stupid things that I like to pick myself apart for don’t define me. And truth be told, most of your insecurities are either invisible to other people or blown way out of proportion.
It’s okay to have goals. It’s great in fact. Maybe you want to donate more to charities or eat healthier or make more time for your social life. But goals are not excuses to not love yourself for who you are right now.
No matter what you do, no matter where you go and no matter what you look like, you will always be you. You are unique, flaws and all. And it’s beautiful. Loving yourself isn’t about staring hours on end at yourself in the mirror in adoration or attaching your identity to your accomplishments. Loving yourself is accepting yourself for who you are, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do you part.
You are your own life-long partner, and you deserve to love yourself and the skin you’re in. You will always be yourself, and nothing will change that, whether it’s a messy room, a bad grade or an extra 10 pounds.
So, indulge in your favorite dessert. Go on that run. Donate to that charity, and learn from your mistakes. Do what makes you happy and what’s good for you, but don’t strive to change who you are. Strive to change what you do because you are always enough, and nothing can change that.
Here’s to you and to loving yourself. Happy Valentine’s Day!